Okay, have you ever had the feeling of being totally down in the dumps? That’s how I felt a couple of months ago when my marketing director quit on me. YEP, that’s right. She up and quit on me, and for days I felt like shit about it. I’m fine now but I was so hurt and felt so defeated. She sent me a TEXT MESSAGE that read, “I’m no longer interested — there’s no gelling. I’ll send over all logins and files and instructions tomorrow!” And poof like that it was over.
I’m over it now and I’m certain it was for the best but her quitting triggers ALL. OF. MY. SHIT!!!!
At the time, I felt like maybe I did something wrong. Maybe I said something wrong. Maybe I’m not organized enough. Maybe my business isn’t good enough. Maybe my message isn’t powerful enough. Maybe I’m not good enough. Maybe, maybe, maybe.
Honestly, for 2 days I drove myself crazy trying to figure out what went wrong?! Now that the dust has settled I had to get honest with myself. As much as I wanted it to be, there wasn’t a LOVE connection! We weren’t right for each other.
And……..I wish her NOTHING but the best because she is very talented BUT…….. I wasn’t really that happy. My intuition kept saying “NO!” But I refused to listen. Basically, I wasn’t getting what I needed from a marketing perspective and that was making it hard for me to run my business. I was hoping she was, ya know, “the one,” because on paper she’s a total fuckin’ ROCKSTAR! I mean, it appeared as if she had EVERYTHING I was looking for in a marketing director. Deep down inside, I knew in my heart that it wasn’t a perfect match.
How did I know, you asked? Well, my love….. because results never lie. There were lots of really AWESOME ideas swirling around but with very little actual results. HER heart just wasn’t in it. Out of my own frustration, I finally said something to her like “Dude?!?! WTF!? This is moving too slow. What is it going to take?” (Not in those exact words but you catch my drift.) That’s when she texted me and quit.
What I know to be true is that EVERYTHING in life (including this) is always working out in my favor. Challenges are going to happen! But… there are always beautiful gifts in them. So instead of staying down in the dumps about it, it’s actually my job to find these gifts.
Guess what I found them!
Gift #1 came last night as I was literally falling asleep. I heard the word “milestone” flash in my mind. MILESTONE, you say?! Yes!!! You see, I am the CEO of a BUSINESS. I’m at the point in my BUSINESS where it’s time to hire more people so that the business can expand. As a result of this AWESOME expansion, someone quit!!!!! PERIOD! So…. Instead of feeling sad and sorry for myself I actually took the time to celebrate this as a milestone. I mean people quit jobs all the time, right? DUH! Why would I expect this NOT to happen to me? Someone quit!!!! Yay me!!! MILESTONE!
Gift #2 is the gift of clarity. I now know and fully accepted that even though I am the CEO and I’m also a collaborator. I am motivated and driven by my love of community, connection, and excellent communication. Without this everyone is splintered off, doing their own thang. That ain’t me. That’s ain’t this business. I ain’t about that life. Anyone who knows me knows that my dream is to build this empire with a kick-ass team of rockstars who believe in the mission, love what we do, love to collaborate, and LOVE to grow together. The reward is so much richer. I have fully accepted that this is who I am, how I love to work, and how I desire to run my business. PERIOD!
Gift #3 is a beautiful reminder to STOP TAKING CRUMBS from people. This has definitely been a recurring theme in my life. It’s rooted in my lack of self-worth. There definitely wasn’t enough communication between us. It drove me bananas. Until I spoke up, I was willing to accept waaaaay less than what I really wanted. Because I didn’t want to upset her, I was actually denying my truth and accepting crumbs. What I know it be true is It’s more than okay for me to expect to have what I desire. It’s more than okay for me to take up space in the world and demand to have what I truly want. This is a work in progress for me. It’s something I have to constantly be aware of and work on. I.DON’T.NEED.PERMISSION. I don’t need to have a reason why. It just is what it is because I want it.
So why am I telling you all of this??
1. Well, the first reason is I believe being an entrepreneur is almost identical to being a performer and maybe you too are experiencing a less than desirable situation in YOUR career.
2. Second, maybe you’re doubting yourself when in fact it’s time to stop second-guessing yourself and trust & follow to your gut.
3. Third, maybe instead of accepting crumbs and trying to convince yourself that it’s okay to accept crumbs, it’s actually time to raise your standards and demand and expect more for yourself, your career and your legacy.
4. And maybe just maybe instead of beating yourself up and wallowing in self-pity, it’s time to celebrate a MILESTONE!
Much love and abundance,
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